The Four Dramas

You need to know the truth…

Behind why people do what they do.

In this email, I will be covering The Four Dramas explained in a book I have just finished The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

And how you can identify yours. (I made a quiz especially) 

I am not a psychologist so take these with a grain of salt.

But I do believe all of us fall into one of these.

(That and it made for good reading material)

Unfortunately, you didn’t have a choice in what drama you are… it comes down to your upbringing and how you were raised.

The book explains the drama we fall into helped us get the energy/ attention we desired as a child.

We then carry on this drama into our adulthood to get other peoples attention.

Once we realise which drama we are.

We can then begin to leave it behind and become our true selves.

The kicker is, that we are usually quick to see these dramas in other people, but rarely ourselves.

Before we get into it your weekly challenge… fitting this quote into your conversations.

So, let’s find out which drama you might fall into. Here’s a quick overview of each:

1. Intimidator: These individuals tend to verbally or physically threaten others to get their way. (Definitely not my cup of tea!)

2. Interrogator: These folks probe and question you as if you’re a murder suspect, only to criticize you no matter what answer you give. (This was my mother, I lover her though)

3. Aloof: These are the vague ones who never fully explain why they’re doing something, often giving elusive answers. (Guilty as charged – this used to be me!)

4. Poor Me: Ever been around someone who always sees the negatives and blames others for their misfortune? That’s the Poor Me drama.

Now, get your journal, open your notes on your phone.

And let's dive into the 4-3-2-1 formula and explore how we can discover your personal drama and work towards self improvement...

4 Journal Prompts:

1. Describe a recent interaction where you felt misunderstood. How did you react?

   • Did you raise your voice or become aggressive? (Intimidator)

   • Did you ask probing questions or criticise? (Interrogator)

   • Did you give vague answers or avoid the conversation? (Aloof)

   • Did you feel like a victim or blame others? (Poor Me)

2. Think about a time when you were in a conflict. How did you handle it?

   • Did you try to overpower the other person? (Intimidator)

   • Did you question their every move? (Interrogator)

   • Did you withdraw and become distant? (Aloof)

   • Did you feel sorry for yourself and seek sympathy? (Poor Me)

3. Reflect on a moment when you felt the need to control a situation. What was your approach?

   • Did you become assertive or dominant? (Intimidator)

   • Did you interrogate or criticise others involved? (Interrogator)

   • Did you act mysterious? (Aloof)

   • Did you express how things never go your way? (Poor Me)

4. How do you typically react when someone challenges your opinion?

   • Do you get defensive or aggressive? (Intimidator)

   • Do you question their motives or knowledge? (Interrogator)

   • Do you become vague or unresponsive? (Aloof)

   • Do you feel attacked and seek pity? (Poor Me)

3 Questions to Unleash Creativity:

1. What’s one small step you can take to become more aware of your own drama?

   • Start a journal to track your reactions and behaviours.

   • Ask a close friend for honest feedback.

   • Practice mindfulness to observe your thoughts and actions.

2. How can you turn your identified drama into a strength?

   • Use assertiveness positively by setting healthy boundaries.

   • Channel your questioning nature into constructive feedback.

   • Embrace your mysterious side to inspire curiosity.

   • Transform self-pity into self-compassion and empathy for others.

3. What’s one unconventional method you could use to work on your drama?

   • Role-play different scenarios to practice new responses.

   • Engage in creative activities like drawing or writing to express emotions.

   • Do some research on YouTube or invest in yourself.

2 Affirmations:

1. “I am aware of my behaviours and choose to respond with positivity and compassion.”

2. “Every day, I grow more understanding and accepting of myself and others.”

1 Mind-Blowing Fact:

Here is a fun fact, understanding your own behaviour patterns can significantly improve your relationships and mental health.

According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Individuals who have high self-awareness and understand their behaviour patterns tend to have more fulfilling relationships and better overall well-being.

This self-awareness can reduce conflicts and promote healthier communication.

Who doesn’t want that?

Take the time this week to explore your own drama and how it impacts your life.

Remember, self-awareness is the first step towards positive change.

Embrace the journey and watch how it transforms your interactions and relationships.

Stay curious and compassionate,

Robbo ‘The PVC Chief’ Blades

P.S. If you enjoyed this exploration, and want to go further here is that quiz https://2hik9di5kc9.typeform.com/to/STReACfy

Quotes to Ponder

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle

“Self-awareness gives you the capacity to learn from your mistakes as well as your successes.” – Lawrence Bossidy

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates