Self-love is loving others...

Today’s concept is a little different.

But first…

This weekend was amazing we celebrated my sister’s 40th and my brothers 18th.

The best part most of the siblings were able to make it…

What I learned is the memories you make now you can’t make again. So don’t get so stuck creating or escaping a life for the future you forget about the life you have.

Trust in god. He has a path for you. It is up to you whether you follow it.

Here is the icon that is my sister.

I talk about self-love, positivity, and balance as I believe these are all crucial to living a happy existence.

But the truth is too much self-love is not a good thing and can lead us to thinking we arent enough…

The trick is finding the balance between nurturing ourselves and extending that love to others.

While self-love is crucial, too much of it can lead us to constantly feel like we aren’t enough.

So, let's explore this concept using our trusty 4-3-2-1 framework to ensure we are striking the right balance.

In Today’s 4-3-2-1:

• 4 Journal prompts on discovering if you are balanced

• 3 questions to spark creativity in expressing self love and love for others.

• 2 affirmations

• 1 fact backed by science.

Podcast pick of the week: The Shift

This week’s podcast pick has to be… a dear friend of mine Hannah powers: FLOW this episode is longer, listen to it in bits be it drives, walks, or chill our time.

4 Journal Prompts:

1. Describe a time when practicing self-love positively impacted your relationships with others.

   • Example: Taking time for self-care allowed you to be more patient and present with your family.

   • Example: Building self-confidence helped you connect better with friends and colleagues.

   • Example: Engaging in hobbies improved your mood and made you more enjoyable to be around.

2. Reflect on a moment when focusing too much on self-love made you feel isolated or disconnected from others.

   • Example: Spending too much time alone led to feelings of loneliness.

   • Example: Prioritizing personal goals over social interactions caused strain in friendships. (This isnt always a bad thing)

   • Example: Being overly self-critical resulted in pushing loved ones away.

3. How can you balance self-love with showing love and care for others in your daily life?

   • Example: Setting aside specific times for self-care and social activities.

   • Example: Practicing active listening when others share their thoughts and feelings.

   • Example: Volunteering or helping others while maintaining your personal boundaries.

4. Imagine a future where you have mastered the balance between self-love and loving others. How does it look and feel?

   • Example: Feeling fulfilled and connected with a strong support network.

   • Example: Achieving personal goals while nurturing meaningful relationships.

   • Example: Experiencing inner peace and joy from both self-care and caring for others.

3 Questions to Unleash Creativity:

1. What are some unique ways you can practice self-love that also benefit others around you?

   • Example: Starting a group chat with friends to practice self-care together.

   • Example: Sharing your self-improvement journey on social media to inspire others.

   • Example: Organizing community activities that promote both personal and collective well-being.

2. How can you transform your self-love routines into opportunities for bonding with loved ones?

   • Example: Inviting a friend to join you in a yoga or meditation session.

   • Example: Planning a self-care day with family, including activities everyone enjoys.

   • Example: Cooking healthy meals together and sharing the benefits of good nutrition.

3. What steps can you take to ensure your self-love practices don't turn into self-criticism or isolation?

   • Example: Setting realistic goals and celebrating small achievements.

   • Example: Seeking feedback and support from trusted friends and mentors.

   • Example: Balancing personal time with social interactions to maintain a healthy perspective.

2 Affirmations:

1. “I am worthy of love and care, and I share that love generously with others.”

2. “By nurturing myself, I create the capacity to love and support those around me.”

1 Mind-Blowing Fact:

The right amount of self-love enhances your ability to empathize with others.

According to a study by Kristin Neff, a pioneering researcher in self-compassion.

Individuals who practice self-compassion are more likely to exhibit empathetic behaviors towards others.

When you are kind and understanding towards yourself, you build the emotional resilience needed to be more compassionate and supportive in your relationships.

Self-love not only improves your well-being but also strengthens your capacity to connect with and care for others.

The truth is we have limited focus, time and energy so spend it in a way that is beneficial to you and your people.

When you are on the journey of growth, you will lose people you never thought you would, and you will keep people you thought you wouldn’t.

This is natural. Dont feel bad.

The lesson is finding balance, you don’t and shouldn’t work 16-hour days to work toward a dream, but you also shouldn’t slack off when you know there are things you could be doing…

As James Clear says

“1% better every day equals a 37x better version of yourself.”

Stay curious, Stay you.

Robbo ‘The PVC Chief’ Blades

Quotes to Ponder

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” – Oscar Wilde

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha

“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.” – Katrina Mayer